'Tis Nobler to Eat with Awareness...

Last week, we took a look at some statistics that suggest a table for one is at least a daily occurrence, and for some people, it’s the norm at most meals. Unfortunately, for many people this translates into the so-called “working meal” – that is, a meal eaten while reading, watching TV, working on paperwork, surfing the Internet, and so on.



That’s a shame, as eating alone is a terrific opportunity to practice mindful eating. While definitions of mindful eating vary, to me mindful eating means an awareness of the food itself (its colors, shapes, sizes, textures, temperatures, mouthfeel, and flavors) and an awareness of eating behavior (what, when, why, and how much you’re eating).



I’d also add that eating awareness includes a connection to one’s emotions. As we explore in “Lose Weight,” food is one of the first ways in which our parents nurture us as infants. There’s an undeniable interrelationship between our eating habits and our thoughts and feelings. Eating alone gives us a chance to unearth those thoughts and feelings – and more importantly, change them for the better.



So, the question begs itself: How can you use eating alone as a way to improve your eating awareness skills? Here are a few ideas to get you started:

• Enjoy a well-appointed table: Break out the cloth tablecloth and napkins, enjoy fresh flowers, and use the good china. Turn off the TV and put your work away. Play soft music. I like to choose music representative of the cuisine (i.e., Indian music with Indian food), but that's just me. Regardless of how you set the table, create a dining environment that makes it clear you matter.
• Know your anatomy: Did you know taste buds are hard-wired to register the same flavors just two or three times in a row? This is the reason many cuisines combine textures, flavors, and tastes in the same dish to help pique appetite. So, choose interesting entrees, and side dishes that complement them, to keep your meals interesting. Take a bite or two, then switch to something else on your plate, or take a sip of your beverage. Speaking of which...
• Put your flatware down. Take a bite, then put down your fork or spoon. You'll find you eat more slowly, and you'll need this skill for the next tip, which is...
• Be an artist (or a scientist). I find more similarities than differences between art and science; both fields interest themselves with describing how things are. So, how's your meal? Really taste it and describe it. Is it sweet, salty, savory, or sour? Hot or cold? Crisp, smooth, or crunchy? Compare one bite to the next. Are they really the same, or can you sense a difference between the edges and the middle? Describe each bite as an artist would, or be a scientist and evaluate your meal as you enjoy it.
• Check in with your thoughts. One of the initial challenges of eating alone is the mental aspect. It's common for people eating alone to be harsh and judgmental: "Everyone else in the world is sitting around the table with their families, while I eat alone." Not true -- and not everyone sitting around a table eating with their family is enjoying the experience. Pay attention to your thoughts. Are they really true? If they are true, are they helpful? Write down your false, unhelpful thoughts, and change them up to make them true and helpful. Keep them near the table so you can refer to them when negative, harmful thoughts arise.

Mealtime is, of course, a time when we eat to nourish our bodies. Because we're not just our bodies, though, I believe it's necessary to nurture our minds and our souls as we nourish our bodies...and I hope these tips help you do just that! What do you think? Do you have a tip for eating alone and enjoying every bite? Let us know below! :)

To Cook, or Not to Cook?

A student in one of my online classes recently asked my opinion of frozen dinners, noting that she'd read an article that touted their benefits. According to the article, frozen dinners offered a variety of weight management benefits: Their single-serving size means you eat just enough, not too much; they can be stored for months in the freezer; and they're quick and easy to prepare. 


Her timing was impeccable, as I had just read an article that quoted The NPD Group stating that more than half of all meals and snacks are eaten away from home. A few days after I answered her question, I saw another article on the same topic, but with a slightly lower percentage (47% of meals and snacks), this time quoting June Jo Lee of Hartman Group.


Obviously, a table for one is the norm, or at least a daily occurrence, for many of us. So, the question begs itself: Are frozen dinners a good replacement for heading to the kitchen to prepare a home-cooked meal?


There is, of course, the convenience and ease of a frozen dinner, especially if you're cooking for one. It's true that, for some people, eating pre-portioned meals can change their perception of what a serving should look like -- although that isn't the case for everyone, and some people may end up overeating at a restaurant or buffet, just because they can.


For others, the single-serving dinner can be a disadvantage. After eating a 300-calorie meal, it's easy to feel hungry in a few hours, and justify nighttime noshing with, "My dinner was so low in calories...I really am a little bit hungry...I'll just have a handful of chips..." Especially for people with a previous habit of nighttime noshing, it can spiral out of control all-too-easily.


So, aside from their convenience, ease, and speed, I'd have to say no to frozen dinners. There's the obvious disadvantage of freezing, which doesn't improve the flavor, texture, or appearance of foods. Many frozen dinners are indeed lower in fat and calories, but high in sugars or salt, or contain additives or preservatives. Few frozen dinners contain the MyPlate recommendation for 1/4 of the plate from protein, 1/4 from carbohydrate, and 1/2 fruits or veggies.


There are less obvious advantages, too. I read an article many decades ago, in which the author compared cooking to alchemy. I love the analogy, and I think there's something to be said for how empowering it is to turn unappetizing raw materials into a feast that nurtures the body, as well as the mind and soul. Cooking is the only activity I'm aware of that relies on all five senses simultaneously. It's no wonder research has found that cooking helps stave off dementia.


When I was single, I prepared dinner most nights of the week. I used beautiful tableware, cloth napkins and tablecloths, enjoyed fresh flowers and candles, and played music with my meals. I firmly believe(d) I was worthy of a beautiful, delicious, home-cooked meal -- whether or not I had a companion at my table. I haven't seen any research to back me up, but I suspect that there's some psychology involved when you compare eating a frozen dinner from a tray, versus enjoying a home-cooked meal at a well-appointed table.


That said, given the research on how many people are eating alone, I'm guessing there will be a bigger push for single-meal frozen dinners...but personally, I'll stick with cooking. What do you think? Let us know below! :)